Thanks for the reminder, Esti. (See her comment in the Three Tips post here.)
She was talking about people who did not end up in her particular company.
This is also the prevailing attitude of many old liners in the Network Marketing field. I recall a quote on the home page of well-known training gent that said:
“If you knew what I knew you’d be in network marketing.”
When I called him on it, pointing out that HE was himself not doing a network marketing company, (he was training the folks), he removed the statement.
Nothing’s for everyone, and calling everyone an idiot or misinformed is not a good way to make friends and influence people.
How will this attitude towards others ever help us gain their ear or their trust?
We’ll need that if they’re to give us a second chance, think?
P.S. Most people I’ve met over the years didn’t choose their network company, they fell into it. They could probably have ended up elsewhere and been perfectly happy. They didn’t, not because their current company or upline is so great, but because they didn’t know about any other companies.
I’m one of those people who fell into many different network marketing companies. Some have been great and some have not. Some upline have been supportive and some pushy and some “just go do it!” I’ve done the “what will keep you from doing this business” or “buying this product” and then went thru all the memorized objection overcoming statements. I got a few customers that have lasted, but none of the “workers” have lasted. I just hated to go out to see anyone because I felt I HAD to “GET someone”. Kim’s way is the best. I love it.
Kim, your statement “nothing’s for everyone” has really helped me to get past the “everyone’s an idiot” mind set. I used to really struggle with it, but not anymore. Thanks.
I think it’s great Kim, that you called him on the statement, “If you knew what I knew you’d be in network marketing.”
While I can see how some people may believe that statement, I have come to learn that network marketing simply is NOT for everyone, no matter what we’ve been taught (like one of those 5 things NOT to say to a prospect).
I’m one of those people who ‘fell into’ network marketing almost 4 years ago, and it wasn’t because I was looking to join a network marketing company. I got one of those “CHANGE YOUR LIFE” emails from someone I didn’t know and off I went to learn more.
I learned that network marketing is something that CAN earn you an ‘obscene’ amount of money, and over the years, I’ve come to better understand how and why. But for the majority of people who enter our industry, that’s not the case, and it’s probably one of the main reasons many go away and talk badly about our industry.
What I have also learned is that it really does take a certain kind of individual to NEVER QUIT (that’s what I was told in my first company that I’m still with, but not actively promoting).
But truth be told, a lot of people just don’t have the mindset, energy, time, money or intention to stay in network marketing UNTIL their success comes. It’s a HUGE learning curve for many people (particularly learning about self) and some folks just aren’t willing to do whatever it takes to ‘get it done.’
No, this business isn’t for the ‘faint of heart’. And for me, it’s been more of a Faith walk than anything else, and I know that’s not for everyone. 🙂
Kim,
You are so right about “falling into a company”. I was not looking for a business 29 years ago when my dentist said this product might help my gum disease like it had helped some of his other patients. I trusted him so I tried it. Well, it worked. Not only did my gum disease get well but my almost daily headaches went away and I had so much more energy that I didn’t need all those naps I had been taking. So when he also told me I could make a little extra money selling it I was open to it. And that is all I have ever really done – made an extra 2-3 thousand a month which today keeps me from depending on Social Security and not needing to dip into savings.
This business is not for everyone and I know it but it has worked well for me and I love my product and can’t imagine ever being without it.
Bobbie
Considering the wisdom of: ‘the measure of our communication with another is in how they feel about themselves when it’s completed,’ reminds me that my attitude envelopes every word I speak.
I’m thankful for experiencing how special my Fellow Network Marketers are, their products and their companies.
What an attitude I had, totally unconsciously and totally unintentionally, attituding to others a judgment at which I am now horrified…
Am learning now how I can Be what’s in my heart and speak from there, in each privilege of communication I have with another, wherever their space and whatever their choice…
Thank You, Kim, in exponentials.
Thank You to each of you 301+ in our NMC Community.
Carolyn
I came into the business of network marketing more by accident. It isn’t for everyone and probably I may have left awhile ago,but I’m a very satisfied customer for life and my passion is to help one person at a time have better nutrition and health.
This business isn’t for everybody but
there is a learning curve for most of us and if you have the patience and work you will be able to reach your goal.
NO BUSINESS is for everyone.
The average person changes careers 5-7 times in their life.
How many leaders are there in business?
Well, how many do you think are going to be in yours?
It isn’t by accident. We make choices everyday.
Life is a do it to yourself project.
We choose to get out of bed in the morning. We choose to be happy. We choose everything. It doesn’t happen by accident.
If you want leaders in your business, you choose them.
You chose this industry. So did all the drop outs.
If people want to be successful in this business, they need to choose to treat it like a business.
If you had a 40 story office building and tenants were vacating spaces, what would you do? Say awe, real estate doesn’t work.
No! You would find new tenants,
Get busy.
You all are winners for making the choice to get out of the rat race and help others do the same.
Thanks fo all you do Kim Klaver.
Kim
I agree with you that “calling everyone an idiot or misinformed is not a good way to make friends or influence people”.
I once attended a meeting where an old-school leader asked everyone in the room who owned a Porsche to raise their hands. Less than a handful of people did. This so-called leader then went on to say that everyone else ought to feel ashamed of their “unimpressive” (the actual word he used is unprintable here) cars. Had I read this post before then, I would have had the courage to call him on this. In general, I do not think very highly of his business-building methods.
I would have thought it was self-evident that such attitudes towards others will not help us gain their trust. So why don’t some old-schoolers see this?
When I left my comment I wanted to leave my link.Did I?
Amy–YEP your link is there. When people click on your name there, it goes right to your delightful profile on NMC.
I think many people have been soured about NM products because of bad experiences with people harassing others about the business, so they even think the products must be some kind of snake oil in a bottle. I know many people who won’t even try any product if it’s “one of those things.” Ultimately, on the product side, it’s their loss because NM companies make really high quality cutting-edge products, especially nutritionals. I really chalk this up to misconceptions and misinformation.
On the business side, successful people are those with a certain entrepreneurial flair and gusto for life – people who have life force, love working with people and aren’t afraid of “sales with a twist” (the hard work being getting the customer up front and then make your sales commission every time the person orders). Not everyone in the world has the spark and go-getter mentality to make it work – so it’s definitely NOT for just anybody.
Cheers,
Rani