For many people, this is not an acceptable answer. The recruiter often responds with things like:
“Oh this isn’t sales! It’s sharing!”
“This is JUST like recommending a restaurant or movie to a friend.”
Or, like dear reader Aletha said in the comments here, When someone says “I can’t sell,” that is really not so. She continues “Anyone ‘can’ do anything, those who say they ‘can’t’ just ‘won’t’.”
OK, back to “Anyone can, they just won’t.”
We’ve all heard this many times from upline. In the can-do hype filled atmosphere at most mlm meetings, recruiters insist that everyone can. They just won’t because they’re not committed and won’t get out of their comfort zone.
I have always thought this is not a good way to win friends or influence others. Here’s why.
In our American can-do uber culture, we all could theoretically do or be anything. But we all choose what we want and say no to the rest. The response, “I can’t…” is just the American way of saying no thanks kindly. And it’s quite OK to say that in almost any social situation.
Picture this: Someone asks you out for coffee or some other date. You say, “I can’t.” How would you react if the other person shot back, “What do you mean you can’t? You mean you won’t, isn’t that right? Why don’t you just say you won’t?”
Would you be taken aback?
People, “I can’t sell” IS their way of saying “No thanks”. Just like we all do to anyone who asks us to do something and we don’t want to do it – no matter why. We say, (sorry) “I can’t.”
Do not let the NM can-do hype and enthusiasm make you insensitive to the preferences and choices others make. We ALL could do much more than we do. But we don’t. Our priorities are what they are. That is what limits us. Not can do or cannot do. “I can’t” is how we say No.
Can we just let go of the “I can’t sell” folks without the judgment or the lecture about how they really “can”?