Sunday is Spiritual day.
Educators have long known that children, given the same exposure, learn to read at different times. At some point, a little brain is ready and it kicks in. Late readers are sometimes extra smart, like Einstein or Edison. Early ones are sometimes extra special too, like Mozart.
Then there’s someone’s inclination, a person’s leanings or tendencies. Their world view, if you will. They’re the things people often pursue and get really good at, because they kind just like doing or thinking this way or that. Some people just love sales, others athletics, spiritual pursuits, movie making, story telling or organizing things or people.
Sometimes one’s readiness and inclinations seem to go in different directions.
Someone becomes a very good reader, and is well-educated, yet they’re not health concsious, much less interested in alternative health. Or they want to keep their jobs despite knowing about people who have something of their own.
How could that be, we ask?
From their point of view, this is not because they’re not ‘ready’ for this other choice (ours, hehe), but because they prefer their own choice – it goes with their inclinations.
Someone with our inclination might think, “Oh, poor thing, she’s so educated, and yet so clueless. If she could just see what I see…”
But what if it’s not about readiness at all? What if her world view is just different? And her inclinations are different than ours?
One’s personal inclinations trump readiness, think? (Of course they might change during one’s life.)
Moral: No banging on the wrong ones. Let go and accept who they tell you they are. Situations sometimes change and with it, inclinations. Then you’ll still be friends.
Here, here and well said.
Sometimes hard to remember, but in practice it will make a huge and positive impact to one’s business, happiness and personal growth.
This from Lynn the psychologist : -)
We all march to the beat of different drums and try as we’d like – we can’t always get people to march to our drums….not if they don’t hear the beat we hear.
And we most likely have different beats in our selves for our own different parts — just like we show different sides of our personalities or selves, so to speak, in different situations.
One can’t force a child to read or be toilet trained – those things happen when the child is ready. And we can’t force people to love what we do – that too will happen or not when the time is ripe – if it ever is….
It would be a boring world if we all believed and did the exact same things…Isn’t it more fun to see the differences? Frustrating? Yes, that too….
Lynn
http://growingchildren.blogspot.com/
So true, Kim.
We all have our own point of view, our own perspective on life.
Some people match us, other’s don’t.
Never “bang” on others –
“A man persuaded against his will is of the same mind still”
It’s free will, and we’re all changing every day as individuals.
Growing. Evolving. Changing.
Accept people as they are, but give them room to change.
Talk to them only when they’re open to hear about your product or business.
Cheers,
Rani
Tis a frustrating thing, sometimes, when you think you have a way to help someone, particularly someone you care about, but they’re not of like mind.
But, the old proverb says you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.
And so it is with our products and our business. We must learn to distinguish who is right for our product/business and who is not and learn to LET GO, as difficult as it may be.
Thanks to Kim, I’ve learned to say “I don’t know if it will work for you the way it did for me. I can’t make promises.” Be willing to let them make a decision – after all, we’re all adults, aren’t we? And to identify the venters who just want to talk instead of doing.
Yet, we must be careful not to give up on people or to peg them in a box. After all, they might change their minds. And if we made them feel good about their choice not to do business with us initially, they might come do business with us if and when they are ready to change.
Great post, Kim! (as usual) 🙂
You know the old saying, “You can bring a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink it”.
This holds true for us humans too.
KIM, I LOVE WHERE U ARE COMING FROM HERE AND I APPRECIATE HOW MUCH HONOR AND RESPECT YOU HAVE FOR HUMANITY!!! LOVE U, NOAH G