The people pleasers


Do you know anyone whose happiness depends on whether others like/love them?

These are the folks always agree to something at first, but later, they don’t perform. They’re the ones who agreed to whatever before, so they could be “in” or liked or get someone’s approval at the moment. Or not have to deal with the consequences of being different.

Who here can say they’ve never done that? You know, say ‘yes’ to some future commitment to please someone, and then flake later, because you really didn’t want to do it that much…

Some people have the people pleaser syndrome so bad (they can’t say No) they get treatment.

Some of you tell me you’ve gotten many people started on the product or business. Now however, they’re all gone.

Could it be you signed up a bunch of people pleasers? Or perhaps someone who was having a people-pleasing moment?

Comments requested: Since people flaking is such a stressful and depressing problem in our industry, especially when it’s friends and family, any suggestions here on how we might present our wares and business so that we don’t bring on that people pleasing moment in them? With the known flake factor and stress that comes with it?

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Kim Klaver


  • Here is what I do. When someone wants to join my business. If they have never been in MLM before, I have them visit my website and read about what is involved in network marketing. Then I give them some kind of homework to do. It may be something as simple as telling me what they liked best about the site. This is a site I created to weed out the “tire kickers”.

    When someone tells me they want to join my business, I tell them to please take a few days and think about it so they KNOW this is what they want to do.

    I used to plug everyone and anyone in and ended up with these same type of people. Now I create the relationships FIRST and then let them join my business. I don’t want everyone, just the ones who WANT to be there.


  • I tell them they should think it over for a few days. I explain that network marketing could be a great business for them, but they need to treat it as a business from the very beginning. That means doing their research first and discussing it with their spouse. It’s not something to be decided on the spur of the moment. If they sign up too soon, it just leads to disappointment for the both of us.

  • I came into network marketing without any idea about the industry.
    I thought everybody would want the products and the business. My approach is very different now. I spend more time developing relationships and then you don’t have to convince them and they ask your advice because they trust you.

    My advice is to give prospects information that is not sugar coated so they know the possibilities but there is work envolved. They won’t be disappointed and neither will you.

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