Scene: Great Sushi restaurant.
Time: Evening, 1 week ago.
Players: Mom, with 13 year old daughter and 16 year old son. Plus me, family friend.
16 yr old, whining: Everyone came back (from Spring break) tan or with chapped skin from skiing and snowboarding. Why didn’t we go anywhere?
Mom: No money this time.
13 yr old: But you said we HAVE money – you always say we have money. You said we didn’t go anywhere because you forgot to plan for Spring break.
Mom: Well that’s my affirmation – I always say that we have money.
13 yr old: But we didn’t
13 yr old: So when do I know when we do or we don’t [have money]? (Read: When do I know when to believe you or not?)
Mom: Shrugs and smiles at her daughter.
What’s your take on this?
I haven’t been able to get it out of my mind entirely.
Affirmations are not my favorite thing, but I know many people use them. Is it OK to tell a kid a fib to match an affirmation that is just that and no more?
Here’s a child who now has to ask her Mom how to tell if she’s telling the truth or not.
Am I wrong here to feel like this is not the way to use affirmations?